He said, she said.

He Said, She said.

Recently I posted a blog about dating do(s) and don't(s)

I thought I would follow up with a blog about the differences in perspectives from male to female. 

It's funny how the mind works, and how perspective is everything. I don't know how many times I have been in both positions of the couples in the video above. You can go on the absolute best date where nothing goes wrong & you leave completely smitten, but who's to say that to the other person the night was a dud. This happens more often than we like to admit. 

He's just not that into you.

Ladies....if there is a male in your life that you're currently sleeping with and he has never taken you out on a date, you haven't met his friends, and you only go over to his house after 12pm...HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. I see so many females get wrapped up on this idea that the guy they are sleeping with will come around. If he isn't your boyfriend then he probably doesn't want to be. It's as simple as that. "But he told me in bed that he really liked me." Key word: IN BED. Most guys will tell you exactly what you want to hear while you're feeding his sexual desires. It's just a known fact. It's not like you're going to have a guy tell you "Thanks so much for the sex, but I just don't really like you that much." No, he's going to sit there and dote on you until you leave his bed. Let's be real...do you really think it's every guy's hope that you will stay the entire night after sleeping together, cuddle, talk about life, and eventually in the morning he would LOVE to make you breakfast. Don't get me wrong...there will be a guy one day that will love doing those things with/for you...but this night time romeo is not that guy. GIVE IT UP. 
 

Mo' money mo' problems.

Now let's turn the tables....guys...
I'm going to set the scene: 5th date with a gorgeous girl you've been taking out. She is cordial, cute, loves all the things you do, and you really think she's "the one"...but...and yes there's a but...she hasn't kissed you and only texts you around dinner time. SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. Okay, so she's probably into you a little...but mainly because you look good on paper. She's been telling her friends about this "guy she's dating" that takes her to the nicest dinners. She probably uses the words "he's such a nice guy" and "he's got a great job and you should see his car", but really she's been talking herself out of actually forming a relationship with you since you met. The main reason is probably that she could never see herself sleeping with you. The tricky thing about females is that we can go on 10 dates with a guy that we aren't even interested in and after each date go to the bar, get drunk with the guy we're actually interested in, and then sleep with said guy. Did you see how easy it was for him? It's not that chivalry is dead or even that "girls love assholes"..because one day she will meet a guy that she can have a steak dinner with before going home to have long hott steamy bedroom aerobics with. You my friend, are unfortunately not that guy. Don't text her 12 times in one week explaining how much you would love to take her out again, because she'll eat that up (Literally). Just cut your losses and keep looking for Juliet...because she is out there somewhere.

 So get on with it...

Keep dating and keep your head up. The perfect combination of sexy and cute is out there somewhere and one day you'll find that special someone that will watch Breaking Bad with you while eating pizza. Someone that will laugh at your snoring & love your stupid sense of humor. 

Never settle.